... while we visit cemeteries, let us remember that there, in the tombs, only the mortal remains of our loved ones rest, while awaiting the final resurrection. Their souls -- as Scripture says -- already "are in the hand of God" (Wisdom 3:1). Hence, the most appropriate and effective way to honor them is to pray for them, offering acts of faith, hope and charity. In union with the Eucharistic sacrifice, we can intercede for their eternal salvation, and experience the most profound communion while awaiting to be reunited again, to enjoy forever the love that created us and redeemed us.
... how beautiful and consoling is the communion of saints! It is a reality that infuses a different dimension to our whole life. We are never alone! We form part of a spiritual "company" in which profound solidarity reigns: the good of each one is for the benefit of all and, vice versa, the common happiness is radiated in each one. It is a mystery that, in a certain measure, we can already experience in this world, in the family, in friendship, especially in the spiritual community of the Church. May Mary Most Holy help us to walk swiftly on the way of sanctity and show herself a Mother of mercy for the souls of the deceased. (Pope Benedict XVI, Angelus Address, November 2, 2009)
I went to a service at a cemetry today to honor those who have passed, it was also to respect my Nan and Great Uncle. I was christend Catholic, but the religion was never pushed onto me, therefore I never have followed suit although my mothers family are firm believers. Although after the service we stood by my Nans grave waiting for her to be blessed, after the blessing I had a sudden sence of peace, my family walked away i stayed i just cried my Nan died when I was 2 so I dont have any strong memories of her but i felt like i had to grieve for a moment and I felt the need to say sorry. I felt her with me at that point and felt better. I think im finding God again, and I feel at peace.
Dear Holly,
Perhaps, without overstating it, your Nan is leading you to Christ through the community of the Church. Divine Providence works that way: subtle proposals of grace.
Can you identify the need for peace that you earn for? In what way has this peace been long-lasting? Why do you feel the need to feel sorry?
One thing you can do periodically is to have your local Catholic Church offer the Mass for the intention of your grandmother and other family members who have died. Invite your family to attend Mass with you and then visit the cemetery to have the prayers of the dead. Then go to breakfast (or lunch). I periodically have Mass celebrated for my deceased relatives, pray the rosary for them and visit the cemetery. All very helpful to me spiritually, and for them. Our Catholic belief is that prayer and Mass keep us connected to the loved one, and helps move their soul closer and closer to perfect unity with God.
Lord is with you and is reaching out to you. Take the time to pray, and spend time with the Lord. Friendship with the Lord is a beautiful thing; perhaps it's time to take steps that lead back to regular worship in the Catholic Church.
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Blessings for you at Thanksgiving.
Peace!