{"id":25732,"date":"2010-07-28T10:01:09","date_gmt":"2010-07-28T14:01:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/communio.stblogs.org\/index.php\/2010\/07\/is-our-love-enlarged-enough-to\/"},"modified":"2010-07-28T10:01:09","modified_gmt":"2010-07-28T14:01:09","slug":"is-our-love-enlarged-enough-to","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/communio.stblogs.org\/index.php\/2010\/07\/is-our-love-enlarged-enough-to\/","title":{"rendered":"Is our love enlarged enough to trust the other?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><!--StartFragment--><span style=\"font-size:12.0pt;font-family:&quot;Times New Roman&quot;;\nmso-ansi-language:EN-US\">The work of holiness is supposedly on our lists of things &#8220;to do.&#8221; Yet, we bounce from thing to thing, place to place, guru to guru without considering the true source of holiness and how holiness develops. Yes, it is a <i>work<\/i> but it is not some<i>thing<\/i> imposed on us by an external force. As St Gregory of Nyssa once said, &#8220;For the quality of holiness is shown not by what we say but by what we do in life.&#8221; No gift can be imposed on someone, neither from God nor from another. We can never <i>take<\/i> a gift but only be open to <i>receiving<\/i> a gift. This is particularly true in meeting God and a friend.<\/span><\/p>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><br \/><\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><span style=\"font-size:12.0pt;font-family:&quot;Times New Roman&quot;;\nmso-ansi-language:EN-US\">Several other thoughts about our desire for holiness come to mind. Holiness is truly being yourself as God means for us to be. Holiness is an invitation made to us to be in a relationship with God; holiness is another way of speaking about a friendship with God through Jesus under the power of the Holy Spirit. It is taking our human needs more and more seriously right now.<\/span><\/div>\n<div>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><br \/><\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\">I was reading the soon-to-be-made &#8220;blessed,&#8221; John Henry Newman and as usual, he hit the nail on the head. So squarely did he diagnose my spiritual and fraternal problems that I shuttered. I wondered: can anyone be so completely transparent to another so as to truly honest and let all inhibitions fall to the side? Can anyone be so transparent to God? It&#8217;s as though Newman is talking about standing completely naked before another, warts and flab and all and hear the words: I love you, I trust you; there is nothing that can dissaude me from loving you. Newman&#8217;s words below completely went numb, then I felt relieved, then I was afraid, and so on. How could anyone get it so right?&nbsp;<\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><br \/><\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\">Read Newman&#8217;s assessment and let me know if you agree.<\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><font class=\"Apple-style-span\" face=\"'Times New Roman', helvetica, hirakakupro-w3, osaka, 'ms pgothic', sans-serif\" size=\"4\"><span class=\"Apple-style-span\" style=\"font-size: 16px;\"><br \/><\/span><\/font><\/div>\n<div><span style=\"font-size:12.0pt;font-family:&quot;Times New Roman&quot;;\nmso-ansi-language:EN-US\">Perhaps the reason why the standard of holiness among<br \/>\nus is so low, why our attachments are so poor, our view of life so dim, our<br \/>\nbelief so unreal, our general notions so artificial and external is this, that<br \/>\nwe dare not trust each other with the secret of our hearts. We have each the<br \/>\nsame secret, and we keep it to ourselves, and we fear that, as a cause of<br \/>\nestrangement, which really would be a bond of union. We do not probe the wounds<br \/>\nof our nature thoroughly: we do not lay the foundation of our religious<br \/>\nprofession in the ground of our inner man: we make clean the outside of things:<br \/>\nwe are amiable and friendly to each other in words and deeds, but our love is<br \/>\nnot enlarged, our bowels of affection are straightened, and we fear to let<br \/>\nintercourse begin at the root: and in consequence, our religion viewed as a<br \/>\nsocial system is hollow, the presence of Christ is not in it. (<i>Plain and<br \/>\nParochial Sermons<\/i>, V, pp. 126-7).<\/span><!--EndFragment-->\n<\/div>\n<\/div>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>The work of holiness is supposedly on our lists of things &#8220;to do.&#8221; Yet, we bounce from thing to thing, place to place, guru to guru without considering the true source of holiness and how holiness develops. Yes, it is a work but it is not something imposed on us by an external force. 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